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There is a constant stream of information about what it means to be beautiful and how that might vary from country to country. And this article from one of my favorite sources, Buzzfeed, is a perfect example of that. A female journalist sent out a photo of herself to contacts in various countries and asked them to Photoshop her to their vision of beauty. I think her finds were very interesting and worth a look, or several. Do you think she found a standard of global beauty?

It bodes some thinking. And here is where you need to decide what it means to YOU to be beautiful, successful, attractive.

Don’t let society (or anyone else for that matter) tell you how you should look or walk or talk or act. This goes for women and men. Beauty standards aren’t just for women anymore. More than ever, there is an intense amount of pressure on men to be muscular, hairless, and tan.

Let me say this once and try not to sound like a bad infomercial or ad for kids. Your body is yours to use as you like. It might not be perfect but it yours. And at the end of the day, you are the only one that has to like what you see in the mirror. If you’re unhappy, change it. If you can’t do it on your own, there is no shame in asking for help. But don’t think that being a size 2 will land you the perfect guy or that having a bigger bicep than The Rock will let you keep a great girl.

If we all concentrated a little more on health and hard work and less on a “quick fix”, I think we would all be a little happier.

And for the record, a little Chapstick never hurt anyone.

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Feminism

Before you read the title and turn away, I want you to know that I’m not going to rant about the perks or benefits of being a “feminist” or rather what most people consider to be “feminism”.

No. Instead, I want to draw your attention to a curious phenomenon that I see happening in ever-increasing amounts. I have met in the last oh, 5 years or so, some extremely remarkable men and women. By remarkable, I mean to call attention not only to their financial success but their goodness of heart, morals, and family principles. One interesting thing that I have witnessed in the last 2 years is the number of powerful or influential women who are the sole or main provider for their families.

Why is this interesting? Well besides the obvious role reversal, I think it’s fascinating that some women are still claiming to be “feminist” when the social order is showing an decreased need for this behavior. Some philosophies of Feminism hold that equality and the break out of gender or racial roles should apply to women AND men, which I find to be more reasonable. And isn’t the fact that in many households of my acquaintance that the woman makes more money than her husband or is the only source of income while he is a stay at home dad proof enough that equality has become more widespread than we realized?

I’m not saying we should stop fighting for equal rights on any front. I just think it’s important to recognize progress when it is being made. And that we shouldn’t simply continue to fight and say that little has been gained. The last century has been one of extreme change and I think the more we notice our results, the happier we will be. Gender roles shouldn’t define us.

Although isn’t it ironic that we are fighting to break out of gender roles in the workplace and yet socially, we adhere to “perfecting” our bodies to suit a stereotypical image that is based on women and men who are literally PAID to look good?

 

Note: This post was prompted by an article I read on Buzzfeed (Love you all over there!) http://www.buzzfeed.com/krystieyandoli/confessions-that-prove-being-a-feminist-is-a-complicated